– “I don’t want to get sick.”, “I don’t want have debt.”, “I don’t want to die young.”, “I don’t want to arrive late at work.”, “I don’t want to get depressed.”, “I do not want to overeat.” … and the list goes on…

The weird thing is that all that they seem to avoid is what end up by happening…

It is really amazing how aware people are of all the things they DO NOT WANT. But when you ask them:

– What do you really want?

They look at you like you’ve just landed from Mars…

– I just told you… they reply not understanding what you are talking about.

Ask, and it shall be given to you. Seek, and you shall find. Knock, and it shall be opened to you.

Matthew 7:7

We think in images. Our conscious mind creates images as indexes and a sophisticated searching mechanism. Each time we hear or say something, the brain “creates” an image to identify what that is; and the interesting thing is, even when we add “don’t” before the thing it still does the same work: either creates the new image or Retrieve a previous one once stored.

Let’s say I tell you: “do not think of a blue vase“!

<wait a few seconds> Tell me, what happened!?

Did you think of a blue vase, or did you not?

I bet you did

Second question: how did you blue vase look like!?

I googled: “blue vase” and saw thousands of images that I would never have imagined a blue vase would look like… then I found this one here and thought it was very interesting…

Did your blue vase look like this one!?

I bet it did not

But Why, you might be asking!?

You said “DO NOT” think of a blue vase!

Why did I think of it?

Because, as I’ve mentioned, we think in images and at the moment I said blue vase, perhaps there was already a register of a blue vase in our brain – from a time in your life – that you probably don’t even recall, but it was there… it was indexed, so as your brain captured the information required – “Blue Vase” – like a searching mechanism, it looked for all that somewhat matched that request (pretty much what google does) and immediately brought you the image related to what you’ve heard of and instantaneously thought of.

Your mind found what you were searching for – made an association – then, only after that, it tried to apply the “do not”, “don’t”, “not”, “never”, etc… but because the image was already there, created or retrieved, by the time you recognize it was a negative request, it is too late. The whole process had already happened.

It seems complicated, but really it isn’t.

Do you recall someone trying to tell a small child or a baby to not do something and the very second they finish the sentence, the kid did exactly what was asked – like they were given a command: “Do not put your finger in the outlet“, “do not touch the stove“, “Do not throw the toy“… and as an urge to please the asking parent, the baby did it all, proudly as it was requested (and their brain knew how to process the information).

No matter how old we get, we still operate the same way.

That is why it is so important to say and state all the things you want. All that you wish to see happening and you would like to have. Instead of chanting to the Universe all the problems, bad relationships, abusive jobs, illness, debts and other things you DO NOT want in your life.

Now you know, you are aware.

Next time you catch yourself thinking, telling yourself or even talking to others that way, STOP. Take a deep breath and think what is the opposite of those bad things you were thinking about… How would you say that in a positive way?

Because we were conditioned to think like this a very long time ago, some people have difficulties thinking the positive way.

Here are a few examples: “I want to be healthy, happy and fulfilled”, ” I want to live fully and prosper”, “I want to enjoy the lifestyle I’ve always wanted and deserve”, “I want to live in my dream home.”, “I want to have a respectful, loving, affectionate and good looking partner.”, “I want to be close to and to spend quality time with the people I love.”, “I want to do what I love and create a profitable life using my God giving talents.”, “I want to practice gratitude daily.”, “I want to let it go things, resentments and bad experiences.”, “I want to forgive and be forgiven.”, …and so much more…

What is that you want?

Imagine for a second about the pizza ordering system. When you think or say something, that “request” is heard and registered and the process of making it happen, starts. The more you talk about, think of it and get emotionally attached to it, faster it will be ready for delivery.

Let’s play a little bit with one of our mental faculties here: our Imagination.

Every time you say or think of things, I want you to imagine sound waves – carrying it out to the Universe all your wishes and desires. To represent the process of the Universe “listening to you” and “processing your requests” to getting things done, imagine you’ve rubbed the lamp and a genius pops up. No matter what it is, good or bad things – you will get it. The more involved you get, the more emotional and connected to the feeling of “already seeing it happen”, more probable it shall happen and materialize into the physical world.

Whatever you say, imagine the Universe responding to you:

– “Your wish is my command!”

Knowing that, what would you focus on, now that you are aware?

Would you ask for what you’ve been avoiding or the things you truly want?

What is that you really really want?

Say it out loud. Write it down. Make a list.

BELIEVE.

Repeat it to yourself daily until it happens!

How many times we live our lives on automated mode, we stop thinking and just go through the motions? We do the same things, make the same choices, go to the same places, tell the same stories…

Perhaps the life pattern you’ve defined a long time ago is still the same… When was the last time you’ve updated your “modus operandi”? Is it out dated? Many believe it is safe to take the more traveled road, to stay with the known, compared to something new…

Have you ever questioned yourself about old thoughts, behaviors, habits and attitudes? Do they still go along with you, or have you been caring and using the same for a very long time? Do they still reflect the person you are today? Better than that, do they represent the person you want to be?

People change cars, clothes, shoes, hair style… even electronic devices and operational systems require updates. How about you? When was the last time you “rebooted” to get your mind updated?

The way you see the world today and your inner voice, are they going along or there is an ongoing battle? Are your values and beliefs compliant with the way you see life now? Is it congruent with your internal dialogue (that little voice that talks to you while you do things)? Are your actions and thoughts aligned with what you really wanna do, be and have?

Free yourself up from the garbage of your past and things that don’t belong anymore. Get rid of the old stuff and make room for the new. We do take time to do Spring cleaning, renew our house style, decor, little gadgets, sometimes we rethink the whole thing and bring a whole new theme, colors and style, don’t we? Why is it so hard to make time, stop everything we are doing, close our eyes and start questioning all the outdated stuff we still carry around, but that we know, they do not belong anymore.

I invite you to stop for five precious minutes of your day, revisit and challenge whatever is going on in your mind. Get rid of the trash, dust, polish what is good and require care, make all the necessary updates…

Get your “New Best Self” Today!

Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.

There are so many things in life that we can count on people’s help and we often should. However, there are a few things that only we can do for ourselves: eat, exercise, go to the bathroom, learn, experience things like dancing in the rain, the first kiss, love, among so many other indescribable moments.

Sure someone can cook the meal and even assist us in the process, but the act of eating is our own job. The same works for exercising, you can go to the gym, follow someone’s program on social media, but you have to put your body into the motions to exercise. Learning is another one, there are tons of tools, methodologies and content available, but the act of learning is your own and no one else can do it for you. The same works for changing your life. There are external forces and many times environmental triggers that can somehow impact or even “motivate” us to the process, but if we decide to stay as we are, change won’t happen.

The changing process starts the very moment you make a decision to do so. Many say that the Universe starts conspiring for your wish to come true and it often happens once your mind is aligned and congruent with the idea. Many watched “The Secret” movie a decade ago or so and thought it was too much… Perhaps…

There are intrinsic forces behind somethings that are invisible to our eyes, but real. A thought impact our feelings, which impact our behavior, which affect our habits and change the outcome of our results. So the mindset to change something, if taken serious can actually have some kind of “magic power”. However, like putting the raw food on the top of the stove and expect it to be cooked by itself, to finally make something happen, an action needs to take place.

This is one of those things that only you can do if you truly want to change your life!