Remember the good, let go of the rest!
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It is so easy to hold on to bad feelings, to keep going back to moments that let us down. To play over and over again one scene of our lives when things did not go well: the way they were supposed to, the way we wanted, the way we expected…
We did or said something that when we realized was already too late.
Somebody acted in a way towards us that we are still staring at the moment, even after years have passed.
Something happened – and it was not good – it was our fault or someone else’s but the moment got spoiled.
We hear a lot about the “F” word, but when it come to us, it is finally our turn to use it, seems way too difficult to embrace it.
There is nothing harder in life than to practice F O R G I V E N E S S.
No matter if it is going back trying to make amendments regarding ourselves, the way we behaved, the words we chose, the ton of voice we used, the gestures, or just the opposite, our silence and lack of action. Of course after the fact, it is easy to assess and know better. It is like investing in the financial market. At the end of the day, you know exactly the moments you should have bought, you should have sold, or you should have stayed put. However, being present in a live-real time world is harder, making decisions as stuff happen, responding and many times overreacting to situations, some in a way we didn’t mean to.
Looking back we know exactly what we were suppose to do, or to say, but didn’t and now we have to live with all that luggage with us forever, right!?
Wrong. We do not need to keep carrying any garbage with us. Don’t we do Spring Cleaning and other “seasonal” decluttering to get rid of the old and give space to the new!? Why is it so hard to do the same thing with our minds, our memories, our unsettled moments, our “unhappy ending” stories? There are always good things to remember, there is always something, one tiny little positive thing to carry with you – even if you need to use a magnifying glass to find it – that is where we should focus on and release us from the negativity of those “let down” scenes.
The only way to set us free is to put forgiveness in practice:
- Ask for forgiveness
- Forgive others
- Forgive yourself
No matter if the other side (or your older or younger self) is not ready to go along with your kindness…. it is not about them. It is all about you, stop carrying the heavy bag with all the hurt, sorrow, pain, regrets etc. You make peace with the moment, the person, yourself in another life moment. They will eventually have to do the same, whenever they are ready, but by then, you might be already flying, exploring new endeavors…
